Porn and Glamour

Porn, glamour and sex are bad for you, right?

Not a word of it!

Addiction is bad for you, but wanting and needing sex is the most natural thing in the world and always will be.

There is nothing wrong with it and there's nothing dirty or sinful either. If you believe otherwise then it could have become an addiction, maybe you're doing it for the sake of it, or an obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), toxic-shame, or something else.

You can get addicted to sex like anything else. And when you get addicted, what happens? You indulge in these habits when you don't really want to, when it's no longer convenient or when you're plain tired, bored or depressed.

A usually wonderful experience can become mundane and depressing when it should be the opposite. Sex addiction can take negative control of your life.

You no longer have full control of your habits, and when you lose control, you feel bad about yourself, have low self-esteem, don't go out, socialize, produce anything worthwhile, and generally feel unhappy.

It's an endless cycle, like all addictions. You might, for example, have a wonderful and gorgeous partner and cheat on them because you have no control.

But there is nothing wrong with sex in itself though, nor porn, glamour or whatever sexual desire takes your fancy. It's a basic need that cannot be controlled or overcome during your healthy lifetime.

Accept who you are instead of being embarrassed or awkward for liking sex and related content. But give yourself a break from addiction if it's become a thing.

That's as simple as it gets for sex addiction. Give yourself a break. You are not a slave to addiction. Get some space.

Like all types of addiction, it consumes time, effort and money. If you're not enjoying it, why are you doing it? If you play video games all day, you've maybe got a similar compulsion and don't have much time for anything else. Your desires never stop, but you shouldn't feel ashamed of who you are!

Try to get it under control.

Your aim should be to balance out immediate desires and get back some self-esteem and control if it's become a problem.

The porn and glamour industries exist for a reason, are legal and cater for an audience looking for specific content.

But having the willpower to say I don't need that right now is priceless and giving yourself a break from addiction, although not immediate, makes you feel better over the long term.